“THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS A COINCIDENCE, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, AND IT’S ALWAYS IN YOUR FAVOUR”
That quote has gotten me through some really tough times, opened my eyes to things I’ve never seen, and got me to really walk through life knowing that there really is a stream of goodness flowing my way constantly whether I want it or not. The only way I don’t receive the goodness is if I resist it, deny it.
Quick back story. So a couple of years ago I was dating an incredible girl that introduced me to so much in life, changing my entire world completely! The relationship ended, my heart was shattered into a trillion pieces, and I didnt know deal with it. Life, for me, was over. I just couldn’t move on. For 3 months I was a puddle on the ground. I had no idea how to get over her and it wasn’t getting any better. All I knew was that I wanted her back and I’d do anything to get her back.
One day I get a message from her reminding me of a wedding we had planned to go to months ago, and seeing as she had a high standard of integrity, counted on the fact that I’d keep my word, which I always do. So I picked myself up off the ground, put myself together, and went. Well, one thing led to another and we reconnected, started talking again daily, hanging out, all the good stuff. That being said, she wasn’t sure if she wanted to get back with me. She found out about something called “The Sterling Institute of Relationships” and wanted to do the weekend course they offer. Since we already made plans for another wedding in Cabo long before the breakup, I changed dates so we can do both. Hit up Boston for the weekend course, and go to Cabo for the wedding. It would either be the celebration of our reunion, or the final farewell and the ending of the final chapter. Well, 10 days later and we’re in a lit infinity pool at night under the stars and the swaying palm trees, overlooking the Pacific Ocean, officially committing our love to each other.
During the 3 months of excruciating pain, I grew more than I’ve ever grown in my entire life. I was so grateful for the breakup, it made me such a batter man. The man that was NOT going mess up a second chance with this most amazing girl, and was gonna be the best boyfriend and future husband EVER!! And I was. Till another 3 months had passed, and the same thing happened, AGAIN! Breakup #2. So what the fuck happened?! Well, turns out I in fact was “the perfect man and the perfect husband material that any girl would be lucky to have” as she put it. So then what went wrong? What she told me at that fateful moment in time was that she realized she was too young and wasn’t ready to settle down. She’s 10 years younger than I am. Fair enough, I can deal with that.
We stayed friends and at one point we’re hanging out and she says something to me in the car that changed my life. We’re talking about what really happened and how we were in the relationship the second time, since now there was nothing to lose, it was 100% honesty. So get this, she tells me that even though I was an amazing guy and couldn’t have done any better, she says “I wish you would have put me in my place more”. Those 11 words sparked the revolution that would forever alter the trajectory of my life!
I thought about what she said, over, and over, and over. I even called her up and talked to her more about it, asking for details and explanations. I talked to other women I confide in about it. I talked to my life coach about it, also a woman. Reached out to one of the best life coaches around about it and asked if he would take me on. Not cheaply either! This man costs $27000 to complete his program!! With a success rate of 99%, I was on board.
After much work, I made some super stark realizations. That led me to reach out to a man I had randomly met in Boston while waiting for the ex to finish her weekend course, and asked him about the sterling institute for men. We met up, I was blown away by this man as he had all the tools I was looking for, from self-development to business training. So we’re sitting across from each other in this dingy bar downtown Toronto, I say to him: “OMG what are the odds we met so randomly, I’m blown away by it!” To which he looks me dead in the eyes, smirks and says:
“THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS A COINCIDENCE, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, AND IT’S ALWAYS IN YOUR FAVOUR”
Anderton
OK, I was skeptical at first but how could I deny it?? Everything that had happened in the past 2 years leading up to that very moment was in my favor. I mean look at the events that had happened. Meeting her in the most random of ways. Dating a gorgeous insta-model, who also happened to be a featured fitness model. Getting a passport, something I never had so I can go on a second date with her in Belize. Traveling and living in Belize for a year on a tropical island in a gorgeous villa right on the sand overlooking the most perfect ocean water. Meeting CEOs, multi-millionaires and supermodels. Being introduced to Landmark, which changed my life in ways I can’t even begin to explain (I’ll have to post about that someday, what I got was priceless). To being super happy and excited about life. Finally to a breakup that was the end of life as I knew it. But that breakup showed me something in myself I would have never seen had it not happened. And now at this moment to sitting in front of this man about to take on The Sterling Institute and blast my game up to the stratosphere!
So I do the “Men’s Sterling Weekend”…. And WWOOWW!! Life, as I had know it, was now irrevocably altered. My eyes were open with such intense clarity that I could NEVER go back to them being closed, EVER! Again, I’ll have to have a whole post on this and what I got from it. So now I keep that statement in mind and I look for it, even when I can’t see it, and then it shows up. Most times after the fact but sometimes instantly, or very shortly after.
Example.
My best friend Laura and I decided to take a trip to Morocco. Well, we drop the ball and show up at the wrong airport!! There’s 2 in the city, we go to the bigger one. What followed was a miracle of biblical proportion and a whole story in itself. But somehow, they switch our flights in time to get on a random flight that takes us to another city where we catch the very same flight we were supposed to be on! After going through that mess, Laura says to me: “wow, that was craziest experience of my life, how the fuck did that happen?!? And how on earth was this to serve me?!?” I reply with, “I dunno but it will, and all will be revealed soon enough”. Well, we get on this tiny plane that we were never supposed be on in the first place, only for us to be seated next to a gorgeous single Mediterranean girl that we end up hitting it off and connect super well. So I look over at Laura all sly and say: “Well, turns out this wasn’t to serve you after all, it was there to serve ME!” LOL.
Since then, 1000 things have happened that were “bad” to begin with that turned out to be “good” and served me very very well! So now, when the big things happen, I’m 1000% sure that it’s there to serve me in some way or another. It didn’t happen just to happen. It was the natural order of things and it really is there for my benefit. The bigger the thing, the longer it will take to show itself and its benefits to me. And the more I see them, the more they are revealed. To the point where, as Seneca says:
“I will pay my tax willingly”
Seneca
Life tax, the bad shit that happens, are not obstacles, but key strategies put in place to redirect or detour one’s life away from closed roads and towards an open road to get us to where we need to be.
Next time something undesirable happens in your life, just remember what the man said and be vigilant in how it ends up benefiting you and serving you in the most incredible way!!
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